Consistency

I’ll be real honest today—consistency isn’t my strongest suit. I struggle with it in a lot of areas: business, routines, processes (whew, I hate “the process”). But one area where I don’t play is relationships.

I don’t know if it’s because I see others as an extension of myself or because I hold love sacred, but when it comes to people—I show up. If I ride with you, I ride with you. And if I don’t… well, I don’t. But what I’ve never been is wishy-washy. I’ve always loved hard.

That used to work against me. I gave to the point of depletion until I learned that real love has to start with self-love. Boundaries taught me that love isn’t about overextending—it’s about holding value. And anything of value isn’t just out here on clearance for anybody to grab. Diamonds aren’t found on the surface. Gold has to be mined. Sacred things require intention to access.

So why do so many of us, especially women, believe that the more we give, the more someone will value us? Truth is, in many cases, the more you give, the more people take. And sometimes, they take advantage.

Here’s what I’ve learned: consistency follows value. We are consistent with what we respect. If you’re inconsistent in a part of your life, check the value you’ve placed there. Because where there’s no value, there can be no real respect.

And that’s why I’ve always been consistent in my relationships. Not because I’m perfect, but because I value myself—and that value extends to how I show up for the people connected to me.

💭 So let me ask you: where in your life are you inconsistent, and what does that say about the value you’ve placed there?